It can be difficult to confront the possibility that someone you care about may be developing Parkinson’s disease.
Early signs can be subtle, and even if you notice them, discussing these changes with a loved one can feel overwhelming. You might worry about causing alarm, making them defensive, or not knowing how to explain what you’ve observed.
Here are some steps to guide you through approaching a loved one when you start to see the early signs of Parkinson’s:
1. Choose the Right Time and Place
Choose a calm, quiet environment where both of you can talk without interruptions or distractions. Avoid discussing your concerns during moments of stress or when your loved one is already feeling overwhelmed. The goal is to have a gentle, caring conversation in a setting that promotes openness and understanding.
2. Be Compassionate and Non-Judgmental
Your loved one may not be aware of the changes you’ve noticed, or they may already be concerned but unsure how to address it. Use "I" statements to focus on your own observations and concern, rather than placing blame or making them feel self-conscious. For example, say, "I’ve noticed that you’ve been moving a little slower lately, and I’m concerned," rather than, "You’re not as mobile as you used to be."
3. Focus on the Observable Signs
When you bring up your concerns, it’s helpful to stick to specific, observable behaviors. This will help your loved one understand why you’re worried without feeling like you’re being vague or overly critical. For instance, you might mention noticing a slight tremor in their hand, difficulty with balance, or changes in their voice. By keeping the conversation focused on concrete examples, it’s easier for them to see that your concern is based on real changes, not just speculation.
4. Emphasize Health, Not a Diagnosis
It’s important not to jump to conclusions or suggest that your loved one definitely has Parkinson’s disease. Instead, frame the conversation around the importance of their overall health and well-being. Explain that the signs you’re noticing may be related to normal aging or another health issue, but they should still be checked by a doctor. You can say something like, "I’m not sure what’s causing these changes, but I think it would be a good idea to get a check-up to make sure everything is okay."
5. Encourage Medical Evaluation Without Pressuring
It’s natural for people to feel nervous about seeing a doctor, especially when they fear something might be wrong. Encourage your loved one to seek medical advice, but do so in a way that feels supportive, not forceful. You can offer to help them schedule the appointment or even accompany them to the doctor if they’re open to it. Explain that catching any health issue early can make treatment more effective and improve their quality of life.
6. Be Prepared for Resistance
Even if your loved one trusts you, they may not be ready to acknowledge the possibility of having a serious condition like Parkinson’s. It’s common for individuals to downplay their symptoms or attribute them to other causes, such as stress or aging. If they react defensively or express reluctance, be patient. Avoid pushing the issue too hard in one conversation; instead, gently bring it up again later if the symptoms persist or worsen. The goal is to help them feel supported, not pressured.
7. Offer Your Support
Let your loved one know that you are there to support them, no matter what the outcome. Reassure them that they don’t have to face any health concerns alone and that you will be there to help navigate the process. Whether it’s assisting with doctor’s appointments, being a listening ear, or learning more about Parkinson’s together, your presence and support can make a big difference.
8. Educate Yourself
Before the conversation, take the time to learn more about Parkinson’s disease and its early signs. The more informed you are, the better you’ll be able to explain your concerns and answer any questions your loved one may have. You don’t have to be an expert, but having a basic understanding of what Parkinson’s is and how it progresses will help you feel more confident when talking with your loved one.
9. Follow Up
After your initial conversation, continue to check in with your loved one, both about their symptoms and about how they’re feeling emotionally. Whether they’ve decided to seek medical advice or are still considering it, your ongoing support will be important. Stay patient and be there to help them process the situation, providing encouragement without becoming overbearing.